Isabella, author of the A Touch of Dutch blog, recently posted a “Before and After Meme” on her blog and invited other bloggers to write about their thoughts and experiences of living in the Netherlands. I was bored so here are my answers.
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Before you knew you’d be coming to the Netherlands, for whatever reason you originally came to the Netherlands, truthfully how much did you know about the country?
I only knew the bare basics and the usual stereotypes : windmills, clogs, low lying land, cheese, and Van Gogh.
Did you learn about the Netherlands in school when you were growing up?
Not that I can remember. Most of what I learnt about the Netherlands was from reading books in my own time.
Do you have family who is Dutch or Dutch heritage?
Not to my knowledge. Most of my immediate family are/were from Ireland, the UK, Spain and Gibraltar.
Were you aware the language the Dutch spoke was Dutch and not German or any other language?
Yes, although I didn’t even know the basics before I met my partner. I knew it was related to German and English but I had never heard spoken Dutch prior to my first visit to the country in 2002.
Had you ever lived outside of your home country for longer than one month prior to living in the Netherlands?
Yes. I lived in the UK for several years during my university studies (I’m originally from Gibraltar), in China for a year and in Taiwan for just under a year.
Had you learned to speak any other language than your own, even if only partially so, before coming to the Netherlands?
Yes. I had a bilingual upbringing (English and Spanish), learnt French at school and studied Mandarin Chinese at university, so I’m no stranger to language learning.
When you learned you’d be coming to the Netherlands, did you feel it was important to learn Dutch?.
I knew it would be important but I wasn’t very enthusiastic about it at first as I didn’t like the sound of Dutch and wasn’t very keen on the look of written Dutch. Once I moved here, I realised I’d have to learn Dutch if I wanted to make my life a little easier, especially since my partner’s parents didn’t speak one word of English.
Did anyone prepare you with information of any type before you came to live in the Netherlands, did you attempt to find information on your own, or did you come to the Netherlands without preparing?
I had visited the country several times before I moved here so I was more or less prepared for my move…or so I thought. Coming here for a holiday and living here are two completely different things. Reading books such as “The Undutchables” was some help and I tried to learn as much about Dutch customs and traditions before I moved here. Having said that, I feel that no amount of preparation and background reading can prepare you for the reality of living here!
How did your friends and family react when they learned you’d be moving to the Netherlands?
They had mixed feelings. I’m an only child so my mum was sad to see me go but she also felt that the Netherlands was a nice country to live in and that I would have better career opportunities here than I would back in Gibraltar (something I have my doubts about). My friends asked if I was going to live in a windmill… :p
What did you think would be your biggest challenge living in a foreign country? Or did you feel you would face any big challenges?
I thought my biggest challenge would be adjusting to yet another different culture and learning the language, especially as I was less than enthusiastic about spending my time learning Dutch. I was also worried that I wouldn’t be able to find a job as my Dutch was non-existent.
And after:
Upon arriving, can you remember the overall impression you had in the first 48 hours?
My overall impression was quite negative. I moved to the Netherlands on Gibraltar’s National Day so I was a bit upset that I wouldn’t be able to celebrate with my friends and family. The weather wasn’t very good either and I was very uncertain about the future, whether I would like working and living here, whether I would be able to make new friends and carve out a new life for myself.
Tell me about your bicycle, if you have one. Is it borrowed/rented or do you own it? And how often do you use it weekly? Have you ever had your bike stolen? Feel free to mention and elaborate about anything special concerning experiences you have/had with your bicycle.
Erm…I don’t actually own a bicycle. I’ve been meaning to buy one for a while but I never seem to get around to it!
Name three of your favorite things about the Dutch culture which first come to mind:
1) The work-life balance – The Dutch seem to have a healthier work-life balance than most other Europeans. They often work hard while at work but they also make sure that they can spend some quality time with their families. After working long hours in the UK and Taiwan, I can certainly appreciate this, even though I still have to work a 40-hour week. 
2) The close relationship with nature – I like how you can always find a park in almost any city and how you only have to travel a very short distance to reach the countryside or the seaside. The Dutch seem to enjoy their green surroundings and I can see the appeal…though I do draw the line at camping. I don’t like nature THAT much!
3) The free newspapers on the trains – This might not be a cultural thing but I like the fact that there are several free newspapers at every major train station. My Dutch has improved exponentially ever since I started reading newspapers on the train, something I rarely did in other countries.
Of the things you never knew before coming here, what have you learned about the Netherlands?
I have learnt that gezelligheid is very important to the average Dutch person and that Dutch men are much more family-oriented than in Gibraltar and the UK (this is a generalisation as I know plenty of people back home who place family before anything else).
Culture shock. Does this ring a bell?
Unfortunately, it does. I suffered from terrible culture shock and homesickness during my first few months here. While I feel much more at home these days, I still get a little annoyed by people who insist on pushing their way on to the train before people have disembarked. This happens in other countries but it was a huge shock after living in the UK and Gibraltar, where people queue and don’t tend to push others aside quite so much. And then there’s “gezelligheid”. My idea of gezelligheid is quite different to what many Dutch consider “gezellig” and I feel that people tend to make remarks about how gezellig it is when the party (or other social event) is dull.
How far have you come with learning Dutch?
I think I’ve come quite a long way in the past 2 and a half years. While I still make some silly grammar mistakes and occasionally have trouble expressing myself, I am able to use Dutch in most everyday situations, including visits to the doctor or dentist. I haven’t enrolled in any courses so I’m quite proud of the fact that I learnt how to speak and understand Dutch simply by listening to people and through self-study. Having said that, I wish my writing skills were a bit better and that I could understand strong accents (I have trouble with Limburgs and strong Amsterdam accents).
What was/is your overall impression of the inburgering [integration] program?
As an EU citizen, I haven’t been subjected to the inburgering program. I’ve heard about it from other friends and colleagues and I am SO glad I don’t have to attend those classes. I think I would hate the country and its people if I was forced to learn the language and adopt Dutch customs. I prefer to learn the language at my own pace and do my own background reading on Dutch customs and history.
Has your view on politics or world issues changed from how you previously viewed things before living in the Netherlands?
Not really. My views remain the same, although I am less interested in the local politics here than I was back home.
Coffeeshops and smartshops. What is your opinion? Have you ever visited a coffeeshop or smartshop? You don’t need to go too far in detail, if you feel it’s too revealing on your own blog.
I’ve never visited a coffeeshop and don’t intend to. I don’t have anything against people who visit those places and feel it’s their own choice. I don’t agree with drug use but, again, each to their own. Everyone has their vice (mine is the internet and fizzy drinks). I don’t know what a smartshop is. I’ll have to run a Google search to enlighten my naive mind.
Since living here, have you learned anything new about yourself? Or perhaps have you learned anything else new? A new hobby or a new way of life?
Erm, well, I’ve learnt that commuting to work every day isn’t as bad as I imagined it would be. After all, it’s a perfect time to read or listen to music. The biggest change to my life was to adopt two wonderful cats. I didn’t have any pets when I was growing up so this has certainly been a learning experience! As for hobbies, I have learnt how to cook properly (though I am by no means a master chef!) and I have plans to take up rollerblading again…once I find some adult skates which fit me.